How to Help Someone You Love
- Realize that you are not alone.
- Take care of yourself by attending Al-anon, Nar-anon and Alateen programs.
- Find a therapist or counselor who understands addiction treatment and recovery and how addiction affects families.
- Keep in mind that withdrawal is biological and the addicted person needs medical intervention.
- Remember that psychologically a chemically dependent person needs to talk to other chemically dependent people; they can’t do it “on their own.”
- Tell your addicted person that addiction is a medical disease and proper treatment is necessary for them to successfully overcome the disease.
- Remember that TREATMENT WORKS!
- Educate yourself: Attend MPI’s Free Saturday Morning Workshops
Every Saturday 10:00 am – 12:00 noon, MPI 3012 Summit Street, 5th Floor; Oakland, CA 94609
Located at the corner of 30th & Summit Street
- The Disease of Chemical Dependency
- The Family Illness
- Family Intervention
- Treatment and Recovery Issues
- Adolescent Chemical Dependency
- Think and hope that your addicted person is “in a phase,” and that it will pass. It won’t.
- Cover for or make excuses for your addicted person. It may reduce the crisis but it perpetuates the illness.
- Allow your addicted person to come home if you don’t want them there.
- Let yourself be taken advantage of by the addicted person. This only teaches him or her to avoid responsibility and to lose respect for you at the same time.
- Watch your addicted person get worse and go further downhill, because she/he will. Chemical dependency is a progressive disease and never stays the same.
- Forget that there are family counselors and family treatment available.
MPI can refer you to a professional interventionist who will meet with your family to develop a plan to persuade the addicted person to enter treatment.
The use of alcohol and prescription and illicit drugs affects people in different ways with varying degrees of risk and harm. Virtually all drinking and drug taking starts voluntarily. However, genetics, environmental factors, and other health conditions can lead to different results in different people.
- Drug or alcohol addiction may begin with a personal choice to use these substances, but research shows that, for many, a physiological dependence soon takes hold; drug dependence produces significant and lasting changes in brain chemistry and function.
- Addiction is a chronic illness, like other chronic illnesses such a Type 2 diabetes mellitus and hypertension that can be successfully treated.
- Chemical dependency is characterized by “loss of control” over the amount of alcohol or drug use. It is NOT drinking all the time or using all the time. The chemically dependent person may abstain for weeks, months, years, or the remainder of his or her life. This “loss of control” is reactivated only when he or she starts drinking/using again.
- Recovery from drug or alcohol addiction is a process that can be quite lengthy. An occasional recurrence of drug or alcohol use during recovery is not an indication of failure.
- Chemical dependency tends to create and magnify social and emotional problems rather than being caused by them.
- Chemical dependency is treatable. Chemically dependent people can live full, productive lives without ever drinking or using substances again.
If a family member or someone you know needs assistance with a possible drug or alcohol program, please call (510) 652-7000 to receive more information about MPI’s programs or to schedule a free assessment interview.